Supermom syndrome

Saturday, November 22, 2014

When I became a stay at home mom, my oldest son was 1 year old. My husband and I made the scary decision to leave our families behind and the comfort of home and travel the world via the Army. The fact that I was going to be able to leave my highly stressful job to stay at home with our son was a huge blessing to me. I made it my life mission to be the best stay at home mom. We did crafts, field trips, play dates and started so many family traditions. I improved my cooking skills and life overall was good. Fast forward several years, we were blessed with our second son and reality hit. It's TOUGH to juggle all these fun things with two kids demanding your time, with two very different needs. I spent the majority of my 2nd son's first year trying to keep up with the mom I used to be. I stressed and more times than not failed. Honestly I struggled to adjust to being a mom of two. I couldn't keep up and one day it hit me.. somewhere along the way I had attempted to be super mom. I had to face the facts that life with two boys was different, so what if the house was a little messy or if the snacks for school were purchased rather than homemade. I had to give myself permission to not be so perfect.. or honestly.. give myself permission for people to see I wasn't perfect. I mean, if us moms were being honest isn't that what it comes to sometimes? We can stress, fuss at our husband and kids, and put way too much on our plate and it's all okay as long as we appear happy and like we have it all together. But, us women know.. we KNOW that being supermom and having it all together comes at a price. We know that something will suffer, whether it's peace at home, our schedule or even our sanity, all so we can appear to have it all together. When we truly stop and think about it it doesn't make much since, but why do we still do it?!

I honestly have no idea why we do it. Maybe because us stay at home moms feel we aren't worthy unless we are trying to take over the world with our homemade cookies, crafts and awesomeness. Maybe it's our need to feel valued and loved? Maybe society has set an impossible standard for us to live up to. Ugh, I don't know.. but I think it's time for us women to release ourselves from those chains. Lets give ourselves the freedom to be the amazing mothers that God made us to be, even in all of our imperfections. I want to be bold enough to let more of me shine through, even if that me is a little less organized, a little less crafty and maybe not so put together. I want to put my extra energy into my children and my husband. What if instead of stressing over those homemade snacks I picked up a fruit tray and snuggled my family instead? Today I want to remind you that it's okay not to be perfect. In fact, imperfection is refreshing to me.  Life is messy, lets stop pretending like it's not. What if, as women, we encouraged each other rather than competed with each other? What if we gave ourselves a little extra grace on those days where life is especially hard. I'm taking off my supermom cape. Anyone want to join me? 
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
Proverbs 31:10 

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